TEEN TOPIC #32: How can parents avoid saying “no” to everything because of diabetes?

Lexi (age 15)
Just know that I won’t die within 2 hours if my pump site is ripped out, so even if something happens, I’ll be fine.

Laura (Age 16)
I don’t think I exactly understand the meaning of this question, though it may be because my parents have done fairly well with not using diabetes as an excuse for me not to do things. I think parents of kids with T1 need to just take a deep breath and trust their children to do what they need to do.

Jessica (age 20)
My parents have never once told me “no” as a result of my diabetes. I was always given options. You want that piece of candy? Then you need to have a shot too. Or you can have an apple or cheese and no shot. You want to run around? Just have a juice. Their mindset was, and still is, I am a child first and a diabetic second. T1D in no way stops any child from achieving their goals and aspirations; no matter how big or small. This value that they have instilled in me from day one is the biggest component in shaping the person I am today. It has taught me that diabetes is a part of who I am. It does not define me. By telling your child “no” because of diabetes, you are letting diabetes control them, and not them control diabetes.

Erin (age 17)
Use reasoning . If it’s getting to much for the teen though, the teen should speak up an tell their parents

Claire (age 17)
Don’t use the disease as an excuse for saying no, use it as an excuse to give them more responsibility for themselves.

Cameron (age 17)
Trust your child. If we want to go over/sleepover at a friend’s house, let us. Most of us are capable of handling ourselves for one night. Also, we can eat anything we want just like people without T1 can. As long as we bolus for it, there’s no reason why anyone should say we can’t have something.

Ashley B. (age 15)
In order to avoid saying “no” to everything related to diabetes, just wait and see how they handle diabetes on their own. If they’ve proven to be responsible to go out with their friends to a concert or out to eat, you shouldn’t deny them the right because of diabetes. Just see if your teen knows how to manage without their parents having to butt in very few minutes.

Jordan (age 18)
Just plan ahead to make sure you’ve discussed all the things your child will need to take care of when they are without you,  and then trust them to do all of those things.  The more freedom you allow, the easier it will get.

Nick (age 19)
Parents need to realize that being diabetic doesn’t need to change life all that much. The biggest difference is that the body doesn’t do everything for you anymore. It takes a good deal of self control and discipline to make up for this, but really, you can live life as anyone else.

Ian (age 14)
Parents need to trust their kids, and know, that this is our life and our health, we will take care of ourselves… because I can guarantee we all want to live to see our own children and grandchildren do what we have done.

Mercedes (age 16)
If you find yourself  saying no more then you are saying yes, you should  look at why you are saying no, and find a way to change it to a yes.

Skylyn (age 16)
Parents need to trust their kids with their diabetes. If you trust your kids, you won’t say no as often.

 

One thought on “TEEN TOPIC #32: How can parents avoid saying “no” to everything because of diabetes?

  1. wendy January 22, 2016 / 2:40 am

    We never say no because of Diabetes.We ask ourselves if she did not have Diabetes would we let her do what ever, eat the food, or go there. We then figure out how to make it work with Diabetes. My toughest yes was sending her to Japan to see a friend by herself.

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